1.19.20 Lose the Wait_MN_8PM + IU UPSELL

Would you dare cheat on your diet if you knew that you’d gain 10 pounds overnight? Or have one more cigarette if you knew the one more cigarette was the one that would kill you?Of course not. And because most consequences aren’t immediate, many of us are more apt to ignore the promises we make to ourselves, right? What relationship are we really messing with if we watch another episode, have one more drink or dark chocolate chunk, digest too much news, quit the dating sites (again), don’t get on that Peleton, etc.? Who’s getting fired or dying from any of those?! However, dot, dot, dot, every time we don’t do what we say we’re going to do (in our terms, break a promise to yourself), it actually does kill a part of us, but a less obvious part: our own trust in ourselves. The key to getting to the Promise Land?Figuring out the right self-imposed consequence is a way for us to get accountable to our dreams. If rewarding ourselves worked, it would have. It seems we humans do just fine living without the stuff we want, no? What’s another year or decade without {fill in the blank}. BUT, take something away from us that we’re used to, feel deserving of, and anticipating — well then, that’s a whole other story. Take away that nightly wine, that cream in our coffee, or skip Netflix, Apple, HBO Max, or even Hulu (!) for a week. Well then, watch out. There’s almost nothing we wouldn’t do to keep our promise. And that’s the point. That’s why the right, self-imposed, funny, icky, and irksome consequences work. Consequences should sting enough to make you think twice before you bypass your promise and buy your own BS (i.e. blame, justify, or excuse). They should have a sense of humor about them and should annoy the crap out of your inner brat and chicken. So much so that you keep your promise. Here’s a good example of how to keep a promise to yourself:

1. Make your promise specific and measurable

2. Tell your kids, spouse, or someone equally as reliable and/or irritating

3. Pay them $5 to $20 bucks if you don’t keep it

4. Yes, tell them that too

5. Forget excuses or guilt, fight the fight

As sadistic as you may think we are (especially, when you haven’t kept your promise!), we promise we are not out for you to pay your consequence (okay, maybe some of the really funny ones). We’re out for you to do what you said you’d do. Coming?

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Love,HG