5.25.21_I Don't Like What You Said_LG_8PM + NO IU UPSELL

Sometimes someone tells you something you just don’t like!Like...your partner tells you they want to change jobs....your kid tells you they want to dye their hair...your parents tell you that they’re not getting vaccinated...Don’t know about you (what a funny expression for a life coach to use, no?) but the first thing I do is react.Not a smart reaction, like a stop, drop, and roll, mind you. No, I have an emotional reaction. And sometimes (okay, often), my first reaction ruins the chances of the person continuing to communicate with me.Ugh, right?If I had just slowed down, here’s the “stop, drop, and roll” type of coaching I could have given myself.Want to get some personalized advice from a coach? Schedule a complementary consultation to create a coaching package that's right for you. Step 1: STOPStop and ask myself, “What’s my purpose here?” My HIGHEST purpose, that is. Or in Inner.U terms, what’s my dream for who and how I want to be with this person. In the case of my kids, my dream and highest purpose is to help them discover who they are and what they love in the easiest possible way. I also have the purpose of making them feel safe and loved so they can experiment and learn. That may not be your purpose with your kids, but that’s mine. You come up with yours.Learn to write your dream in our upcoming webinar, Design Your Life, You Must Be Dreaming on June 1st.Mostly, we do not think about our highest purpose while “in the moment” parenting. Personally, I think about things like:What will create the least mess?What will cost the least?What will calm them down (aka have them leave me alone)?What will make other people like and approve of them and me?I admit it, these are the “lower self” purposes feeding my knee-jerk reactions when I hear something I don’t like. Step 2: DROPDrop and deal with my negative inner dialogue. As in: "Whatever I believe, I prove.”Learn about Taglines, the coaching that shifted NFL Legend Nolan Carroll's life on a dime, on The Doctors with Beth Weissenberger. I can’t just pretend I don’t have thoughts like:What will people think?What next?Will my other kid follow suit?In the exploration, I get to see ALL my thoughts, the higher self ones AND the lower self ones. Most of my (and your!) thoughts (~80%, in fact) are garbage and nowhere near my ideal at all. Some of them urge me to ask certain clarifying questions:Is it permanent dye? Will you do it yourself or go to a professional?If you don’t look discerningly at what’s swimming around in your head/your Inner Dialogue, you won’t know what’s useful to pursue.Now, how to make that Inner Dialogue useful... 

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Love,Laurie Gerber

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